Fran Proctor

Displaced Anger from Childhood.

I had Havening sessions for my anger. Prior, I found myself overreacting to situations. I also supressed a lot of emotions because I didn't know how to verbalise and offload effectively. I visited Fran for four sessions of havening and the first two sessions where quite challenging for me, by the 4th session, it was a total life change. Fran guided me through the whole process without having to disclose triggering information from my childhood. I have now found that as hard as I try to evoke that old anger, I can't find it. It's genuinely not there. I wish I did this years ago. I now find that as heated as work/social can get, I am calm and can think clearer.

- Leonie L, 26

Childhood Sexual Abuse.

I went to see Fran after she was recommended to me. I was incredibly apprehensive due to past experiences of support which made me feel worse, but I felt like Fran really understood this. There were no long assessments, or talking and Fran explained what a session looked like before our sessions which really helped me. Havening was an experience that I wasn't expecting. After all these years my childhood memories no longer haunt me and my mental health has dramatically improved.

- Ben, 41

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Something traumatic happened when I was at school and it really messed up my life. I was put on medication and had counselling but it made little difference. I had two sessions of Havening with Fran and within no amount of time I found myself living my life again. Havening was the best choice and I really enjoyed working with Fran.

- William, 20

Domestic Abuse

I came across havening and thought I'd like to give it ago but I when I started I was unsure exactly what for. Fran said just trust the process and I am so glad that I did. Havening sessions helped me find the things that I had buried including the shame and embarrassment that I felt from being in an abusive relationship and get rid of them. I also realised during my sessions how claustrophobic I was and was able to work on some specific situations aswell as the stalking that happened. I no longer feel the same in closed spaces or get the same feeling when someone closes a door. Havening has also made me feel much better about myself and the future.

- SJ, 32

Abandonment / Relationship Issues

I could be like a red rag to a bull. and fly off the handle with people. When I had my first session of havening I was quite difficult to start with as I was worried if I opened up I would be unfixable. Havening wasn’t like that atall, I felt really safe and relaxed. We worked on significant times in my life that had involved others that made me upset, including things from my childhood, right back to when I was abandoned at birth. I ended up having two sessions of havening and felt really good after both, but I didn’t notice any particular changes until weeks later. Something happened, and after it did I was saying to myself wait a minute, I didn’t react. The things I would usually get triggered by, I no longer do. I also came to understand that it was when I thought someone was going to leave me that I would particularly lose it. I went back to Fran for coaching to find new ways of communicating and working on my own needs which has helped me move forward.

- Emma, 37

Trapped by Husband's Death - PTSD/Grief

I was unfortunate to witness the sudden death of my husband when I was 39 which left me with PTSD. Over the years I had therapy and continued living but still felt trapped as whenever I though about my husbands death I would relive that night and I could instantly feel all the same emotions. I had accepted that this is what was meant by learning to live with death and that I just had to find coping mechanisms.

Then I was introduced to Havening, having read about it I was sceptical but understood the science so thought it was worth exploring further. I then met Fran, she explained the basics of what I needed to know and I had my first Havening session. After that first session I could no long feel any emotions connected to that night and when I recall it, I am looking down on events, I am no longer in the situation.

For me getting rid of the trauma was so profound, a single session had done more for me than any previous therapy I had ever had. After the first session though, I started to feel incredibly emotional and I couldn’t understand why. I would fluctuate from feeling love, to sadness, anger and pain.

When Fran and I reconnected, Fran reiterated pop up effects but I had been so elated with my first session I didn't pay enough attention as to this was what was happening. Fran explained that first session had unblocked the original trauma, and behind it was all these suppressed emotions. I was literally going through the grief cycle but rapidly.

In my second session we worked through my emotions, the most suppressed one had been anger, and having got it out, I was finally at peace. Fran saw me for a third session just to follow up and make sure that I was doing ok. Which I was and am.

Havening has changed my life as I am no longer trapped by my husbands death and trying to survive. I am now alive and living my life to the full. Fran is an excellent practitioner, so caring and an amazing person. I am so grateful that I met her, Fran has given me my life back in 3 sessions!

- Jane, 44