Rid yourself of anxiety, stress, fear, phobias, and trauma? Is your life miserable? Are your relationships difficult? Is the past robbing you of a happy life? I specialise in bringing calmness and happiness back into your life. My sessions take place over zoom, using proven revolutionary methods. If you want to rid yourself of the above problems, contact me for a free clarity call.
I have over 20 years of experience working with people facing challenges with anxiety, stress, phobias, trauma, and loss. I have a wide range of tools that will enable us to get the best from each session and if you choose, we can work content free. I work with my intuition so each session is individually tailored get the best possible outcome.
Hi my name is Julie and I am often asked why I became a therapist this is my story.
Recently I moved 200 miles to live near the coast. I have grown up children, and beautiful grandchildren who make my heart sing. I have two cockerpoos, who have been my constant companions since COVID-19 began. My life was not always this happy.
I have always been able to see the beauty and potential in others, yet inside I felt ‘not good enough’. Compliments, and praise, bounced off me, yet one criticism would keep me awake at night, stressed, anxious and imaging the worst. It was not always doom and gloom. I have some happy memories. Growing up I was always looking for the love I had lost. Because of this I always wanted to make other people feel good, never to feel the deep emotional pain I had felt.
I grew up in the 60s in a typical family of the time. I was the eldest of 5 children. At the age of 10 our Mam suddenly died from a heart attack; she was only 29. In one moment, this devastating loss changed the life of our family forever. I was the eldest with three brothers and one sister; everything we had was left behind, our home, our clothes, and our toys. Dad became a stranger, someone we hardly ever saw. We were brought up by relatives who never understood the emotional pain of our loss. My mum was never mentioned again, and her name never spoken as though she had not existed. Our fun Dad had gone and if he did come to visit, we were usually ushered into another room and were not allowed to speak to him. My youngest brother was only three months old, when our lives went from full colour to black and white. Childhood fun, laughter, and most of all love, were left far behind. I was brought up in the middle of a family feud, caused by the devastating loss of my mother. I didn’t feel safe or loved or wanted, I was a very shy girl with low self-esteem. We did have fun sometimes but that feeling of loss overshadowed everything. At the age of 15 I tried to kill myself. I am not sure what the catalyst was, but I suddenly realised I wanted to live. At 16 I left home which was the beginning of more self-discovery, some good some bad. Throughout my life nothing has come close to the pain of losing my mother even being abused as a child. Havening has healed me from my childhood traumas given me confidence, self-esteem, and happiness.
I now say the research I have done in my life helps me help the people who I work with. Havening has changed my life in ways I never dreamed of now I can put my hand on my heart and say I love myself and really mean it.
If you would like to work with me I look forward to hearing from you my facebook page is Durham Havening.
Life is a research process and even when I worked to help others I knew I had to continue working on myself to fully heal from the abuse and trauma I had suffered. My healing journey led me to train in the therapies and tools that brought my life back to full colour. I can now put my hand on my heart and say I LOVE myself and really mean it.